The Truth about Restaurant Romance

Recently, two of my co-workers broke up. Ironically, another couple that also works with me broke up the same week! In the restaurant world, I have seen many co-workers date and break up (yes, even I have done it!). Here are some reasons why dating a server in your restaurant usually doesn’t work:

1. It will not remain a secret. Even if you try to keep the relationship on the down-low at work, social media will eventually expose it. In result, your co-workers will become more involved and nosy than they should. Servers also love to gossip about co-workers, especially ones that are dating.

2. You will find your inner jealously. Even if you are not normally jealous, dating a server will change that. Waiters tend to have flirty personalities at work to get better tips, but watching your significant other flirt with cute table guests will drive you crazy. In addition, if you catch other co-workers flirting with him/her, you are not going to be happy!


3. You will most likely break up. Not only will working with your ex be uncomfortable, but you will have to hear about their crazy nights out and new partners when they are talking to other co-workers. Sadly, your ex might spread hurtful rumors about you too.

Save yourself now by avoiding work relationships. You will see them too often, too many people get involved, and breaking up will be disastrous. So keep your work and love life separate!



Attitude is Everything.

While I was at work today, I had to remind myself that my attitude towards my customers and my co-workers can influence my entire day. I woke up in a bad mood this morning; I was tired and didn’t want to work a 10 hour shift when it was the weekend. Then during the morning shift, it was incredibly slow and I was hardly getting any tables. So right away I knew I wasn’t going to make any money, which made me even more upset to be there, since it was basically a waste of time.

No matter how annoyed I was though, I tried not to focus on it. Instead, I tried to enjoy the fact that it was going to be an easy and stress-free day at work. In result, I was being sociable with my customers, cracking jokes with my co-workers, and enjoying the free time I had. Since I was so laidback and easy-going, my tables loved me and the good tips just kept on coming. Thus, I got even more happier and positive as the day went on! By the time I went on my break, I felt good and had made decent money.

So trust me, if there’s anything you don’t want to do when you’re a server, it’s being in a bad mood. First of all, other servers can’t stand it when one server is always a “Negative Nancy” and constantly complains about the same things that all of us have to deal with (that we never complain about!). Your co-workers won’t enjoy working with you and then you’ll find that you have nobody to talk to during the painfully slow days. Not only that, but your guests won’t find you pleasant to be around either. They will also have no reason to think “She/he was awesome! I’m going to leave them a good tip.” And isn’t that the whole point you’re working anyways?


So by being in a bad mood, you can lose companionship and even lose money! And finally, feeling down also affects you. By constantly hating the fact that you’re at work, it’ll feel like the hours are dragging on and you’ll become more irritated than necessary. Being pessimistic has negative health effects on your mind and body too!

When you’re thinking positively, being happy, and laughing with your guests and co-workers, your shift will be much more enjoyable and profitable. So if you’re feeling negative when you go into work, try to remember the reasons you enjoy your job. Or as an alternative, at least fake that your happy. A big part of serving is your ability to act like the happiest and more pleasant waiter ever, no matter what mood you’re actually in. As this Emily Nevius explains, “put your work face on.” 

Eventually, even fake happiness can rub off on you and become the real deal. So in the end, everyone will be smiling.

What are your guys’ strategies to snap out of a bad mood?